At times, life can feel overwhelming. And I see it as a sign of strength, not weakness, to search for help when you’re feeling that way. You may not realise it, but you’re already taking the first step towards getting the peace of mind you crave.
Counselling can help with a diverse range of problems, and my specialisms are:
Other types of Loss, including:
As a qualified counsellor, I am a member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy, and abide by their code of ethics.
I am based in Epsom, and offer face to face counselling from private rooms in both The White House Health and Wellness Centre, and in Epsom Library (both in a convenient location, near to Epsom station.) I can also offer online and telephone counselling. Let me know what works best for you. I am within easy reach of Ashtead, Ewell, Kingston, Sutton, Wimbledon and Richmond.
Maybe you are feeling sad, lost, or angry right now. As a person-centred counsellor, I will listen and aim to understand your world from your unique point of view. Together we can explore your feelings and dilemmas to help you move forward in a positive way. I offer a safe, confidential space and promise never to judge you.
Sometimes it can be hard to stop yourself going round and round your worries in your head and getting stuck in a loop. Being able to talk to someone outside your situation can break that loop and help you to see your situation from a different perspective. Being REALLY listened to and understood can free you to make the decisions you need to, or to come to terms with a new life situation that is out of your control.
Sessions are geared around the issues you bring, rather than me setting an agenda for the therapy.
Grief and loss can leave you feeling as if you're on a rollercoaster of despair, guilt and anger, but you don't have to cope alone.
My clients have told me that sharing the good and the bad feelings and memories, the socially acceptable ones, and the 'do-I-dare-admit-to-this?' ones has been cathartic and healing. I promise never to judge you - you're a human being, and all of us at some time have difficult, conflicting feelings. Voicing these out loud to someone who'll empathise, and look at the reasons behind them, can be the first step to self-compassion, and a deeper understanding of yourself.
There are many other types of loss, which cause intense feelings similar to bereavement – and it’s important to acknowledge them, rather than let them eat away at you inside. For instance, many people derive their self-worth from the job they do – so redundancy or retirement can be a major shock, causing them to rethink their identity. Many need to grieve for what’s lost before they are ready to move on.
All too often, unpaid carers who are caring for a relative or friend can be under huge strain and can easily become isolated from their former life and social contacts. In my counselling, support work and groupwork roles at several Carers Centres in London – and through personal family experience – I understand those strains and tensions and believe that talking things through with someone who is not emotionally involved in your situation can be a lifeline.
"But I haven’t got time to come to counselling!"
Many carers may feel they’re too busy with the demands of their role to spend an hour or two out of the house attending counselling. And yet taking time out to care for your mental wellbeing has the potential to help not just you, but the person you care for too. If you become burnt out and potentially resentful, nobody wins. Whereas if you have a chance to air those feelings, whether that’s exploring coping mechanisms or simply having an empathetic listener while you let off steam, you’re more likely to return home reinvigorated and better able to fulfil your caring role.
Could a friend or family member take over your caring role for that hour or two a week?
If possible, I feel face-to-face counselling is beneficial, as you are away from home, and won’t be called away. However, I can also offer counselling online or on the phone – if there’s a good time of day and you have a private space to talk, let me know, and we can sort something out.
My current fee is £50 for an individual counselling or assessment session, payable 24 hours in advance, preferably by Bank Transfer.
The usual frequency is once a week.
No. I believe that recognising when you need support is a sign of strength, not weakness. It’s a sign of being human that sometimes you need help along the way.
Many people try to carry on with normal life, however big their problems – but beyond a certain point, it’s self-defeating to struggle alone. If you’re feeling down, or lost, or there’s no joy in your life, doesn’t it seem a waste to ‘just get on with it’ when you could get support to find peace of mind?
Confidentiality is of primary importance in the counselling relationship. Information about you will not be released to any other person without your prior consent, unless it relates to my legal and ethical responsibilities. Anything said during sessions and any notes taken will be treated as strictly confidential. In agreement with BACP (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy) ethical guidelines, I will only discuss the work done together with my clinical supervisor, who will also treat any information about you as confidential.
*Rare circumstances in which I may need to break our confidentiality
*1) If I believe you were at immediate risk of attempting suicide, self-harm or harm to others
2) If you reveal information relating to terrorism or are required by a court of law
3) If there are concerns about the safety of a child
‘I don’t want someone telling me what to do’
Rest assured: this is not what counselling is about. I’m not there to take over and make your decisions for you. The way I look at it, if I take the time to understand where you’re coming from, and then explore your options with you, you’re more likely to be confident about making a change in your life or taking an informed decision.
My aim is to help you to discover and trust in your own abilities and autonomy.
Evidence suggests that the relationship between client and therapist is a key factor in enabling therapeutic change
I offer a free initial phone call of around 20 minutes to have a chat about what has brought you to counselling. This would be a chance for you to see how it feels to talk to me about yourself, and if you think I am the right counsellor for you.
It will also help me to work out if I am the right person to help you, or if I would need to refer you to someone else.
If both parties agree, I will then book you in for a 50-minute ‘mutual assessment’ session face to face, and we can talk more about your expectations and hopes, and any background information you feel is important for the counselling. We would also discuss the times and frequency of sessions, and the counselling terms. I will be happy to answer all your questions and address any concerns.
I started in private practice in 2021, after training at Wimbledon Guild. My qualifications are:
My interest in counselling goes back many years. Before making it my career, I volunteered as a part-time counsellor for several charities and helplines in my spare time. The most recent of these was Kingston Bereavement Service, where I volunteered for three years, including during the Covid pandemic.
I currently work for Paul's Cancer Support Service in Battersea, London, as well as being in private practice.
Previously, I worked in the charity/social care sectors for over 12 years, including counselling, support work and groupwork for several carers centres.